Parents always want to know the best ways to punish your kids for bad behavior.
Where do you turn when nothing seems to work?
There are a lot of places that will try to sell you parenting classes and other gimmicks that claim you can change a child’s nature by introducing certain things into their lives.
This article is not about those kind of classes but about ways to punish your kids for bad behavior without resorting to stuff that does not work.
One where you consistently use the same old, hard-to-do tactics and still aren t getting your children to cooperate or act appropriately, and theyre just not working, what do you do?
Instead, I’m speaking about smart new ways to approach and discover the real reason behind that poor behavior so that you can truly touch your kid s soul and get a real solution from it.
One way to go about this is by using language that is as negative as possible. If you say things like “oh, stop that” or “no” or anything along those lines, your kids will hear those words come back to them over again.
They will think that’s the only way they can communicate with you and that’s all they’ll ever talk about.
Well, I’m here to tell you that is not how parenting works! If you tell your child that something is wrong, be very clear and concise with them.
You have to be in control, you have to be in charge, and you have to give them clear instructions and consequences.
Try saying that you will be expecting them to behave properly or you will be making them feel like you are trying to be a control freak.
How would you like being in the front seat when your mother comes to pick you up in the middle of the night and says, “you better get to bed or you’ll be getting a spanking!”
That happens to me and that’s why I use this parenting tip with my 2 kids one, a little girl and one, a little boy.
It really works wonders for me because the level of confusion that they both have is pretty high so to help eliminate some of that confusion, I simply make sure that I am in the front seat and then let them drive the bus!
That way, I am in control and there is no confusion or fighting and shouting and yelling.
Another thing that both of my children will do is yell at each other when they don’t get their emotional needs met.
This is one of the hardest things to teach parenting skills to our children. How you respond to that will directly relate to how they feel about themselves.
You can either react to their yelling in a negative manner, or you can respond in a way that helps them to feel good about themselves.
This is a huge difference when it comes to disciplining your kids because you are providing them with a huge amount of structure and a very solid foundation for them to build off of.
There is a huge difference between yelling and screaming at your children and being a supportive and empathetic parent.
There is a huge difference between saying, “don’t do that” and “oh, that’s so awful”.
It is so important to take a step back and be a non-judgmental, supportive and empathetic parent when dealing with any type of behavior issues.
It’s not easy being a mother and trying to raise a child well but if you take the time to really educate yourself on some of the issues that you will need to deal with in Nigeria, life will be much easier.
One of the biggest problems when it comes to raising children is that some people just don’t respect the fact that a mother has to take care of herself and be self sufficient.
It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, in Nigeria it doesn’t matter, life will be hard, especially if you are a mother and in some communities especially if you are working to support your family.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a better person and trying to raise your child well but when you do this you need to be careful because you don’t want to cause more harm than good to your child.
You definitely do not want to let your kid believe that the only way they are going to get a fairytale life is if they follow your example.
There is so much more that you can do as a mother and a sister or aunt.
You definitely don’t have to wait for your son or daughter to become an adult before you can teach them values and morals, it can begin immediately.