Many parents and grandparents want to see better parenting but do not have the time or patience to effectively discipline their kids.
In fact, many would rather spend that time focusing on family matters than trying to effectively deal with their kids’ behavior problems.
But it is important for parents to find ways to keep their kids in line. This can be done through proper parenting techniques, effective communication and by putting a greater emphasis on family values.
Kids without discipline are more likely to engage in unproductive activities such as skipping school, using inappropriate language and throwing temper tantrums.
They will also be less productive in school because of their lack of focus and inability to concentrate.
Parents can prevent this by implementing a time-out policy and rewarding compliance with consequences of their misconduct.
A time-out policy should be used sparingly to avoid getting overwhelmed.
One way to get your kids to pay attention is by having a set date in which you and your kids are expected to meet on a regular basis for an hour so that they can develop good listening skills.
This can provide the incentive needed to help kids without discipline to focus on serious issues. For example, your kids need to know when they owe an answer to something and when they don’t.
This can prevent them from doing things that will reinforce bad behaviors.
Another way to get your kids to respond to your parenting efforts is to establish consistency. When there are no consistency in your parenting patterns, kids are not likely to follow them.
For example, if your parenting methods vary week to week, your stepchildren may not be interested in following you.
It is also important to have consistency in values because kids can easily pick up on things you aren’t happy about.
So, if you have different moral values than your stepchildren, you need to ensure they are consistent with yours so they will be able to form their own.
Stepfamily involvement can work together to reinforce discipline.
If your stepdads are raising their kids on their own and independently, this can create a certain sense of independence and non-conformity where children feel they cannot rely on their parents or other adults.
Stepfamily involvement can provide the sense of security that your kids will have someone who will look out for them when they aren’t living in your home.
They can learn boundaries as well as learn to set reasonable limits for their stepfamily members.
Empathy is a crucial quality in parenting. You can have all the parenting skills in the world, but if you are not able to connect with your kids, then you won’t get them to do what you want them to.
Stepfamilies with kids should have some level of emotional rapport because this provides for a secure environment.
Stepchildren can benefit from having a caring and empathetic parent, and their relationship with their stepparent will become stronger if they can develop a sense of emotional depth.
When kids feel safe and supported by their parent, they are more likely to do the things they want to do and say the things that they need to say.
Consistency is another key element to successful parenting. Your kids will need structure and predictability in order to grow and thrive.
If you consistently let them know that they are loved, nurtured, and supported, then they will be more likely to develop healthy behaviors.
Parents must work together to establish and maintain consistent parenting. If they are inconsistent with each other, then it becomes very difficult to create a level of consistency and predictability.
Many parenting experts believe that one of the most important keys to having a happy and successful child is having an effective parenting mindset.
Having an effective mindset is also called the “default setting” of what’s acceptable.
A common default setting for kids is the avoidance of conflict, the focus on self-control, and the accommodation of behavior by others.
This article offers some practical advice for parents to improve their relationship with their kids.