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How to Avoid the Parenting Mistakes Commonly Made with Middle Children

Being a middle child can be a great experience having both older and younger siblings, and the benefits it brings. However, there are plenty of issues for middle children, and sometimes we as parents seem to compound those issues by the mistakes we make.

What are some of the most common errors made with middle children, and how can we avoid them?

Paying More Attention to the Oldest and Youngest

Our first-born child naturally gets our undivided attention for the first stage of their life, and gets used to being the center of all adult attention. When the second child comes along, he or she begins as the baby and is able to bask in the attention that brings.

However, when a new little one arrives, the second child is then bumped into the middle position.
Unfortunately, we often offer middle children less attention than our others without realizing it. Make a point of spreading your time and care among all your children, and you will avoid this unfortunate situation.

Comparing Them to Their Older Sibling

You will do your middle child a disservice by continually comparing them to your first-born. First-born children are natural leaders, and are often the type that work hard to get where they want in life.

Middle children are often more laid back, and this personality type is just as valuable and necessary in our society as any other type. Be careful not to force your middle child to feel they need to take on the often over-achieving first-born child’s personality.

Comparing Them to Their Younger Sibling

The baby of the family is often a fun-loving individual who is the life of the party. Your middle child may feel like they have been bumped from their original position, and may take awhile to settle into their new role.

Be accepting of your middle child’s personality and don’t expect them to compete with their younger sibling, as they likely won’t be able to top the “cute factor” of the youngest.

Forgetting to Let Them Make Group Decisions

We often let children take turns making decisions when it comes to things such as what movies to watch, etc. The first-born generally gets his (or her) chance by insisting persistently. The youngest often does as well because they feel they have that right as the baby.

If your middle child doesn’t push for his voice to be heard, it’s up to you as the parent to make sure he is not overlooked. Insist that he gets his turn to make the same decisions that are being made by everyone else.

Blaming Them for Everything

Middle children sometimes hold the unfortunate position of one who is blamed. The oldest is generally more knowledgeable about how to steer the blame away from themself, and the youngest is let off the hook simply by virtue of their age and charm.

Be fair and don’t automatically point fingers at your middle child just because they have not learned a way to get out of sticky situations with the same wit and charm as your other children.

Being the middle child can be a difficult place in a family. You as a parent can do many things to make it as pleasurable an experience as possible for them. Take steps to avoid these common parenting mistakes and your middle child will be most grateful.

How to Avoid the Parenting Mistakes Commonly Made with Middle Children

How to Avoid the Parenting Mistakes Commonly Made with Middle Children

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